For 5 years I’ve tried to have a good relationship with my in-laws. Things never get better with them though. My father-in-law sexually harassed me, and even upon my husband’s request to quit touching me inappropriately, he kept on doing it until I broke the new to his wife (my MIL). Besides these incidents that left me forever traumatized, FIL is demeaning and offensive to my husband regularly. My mother-in-law didn’t approve of my union with my husband and made that very clear from the moment we decided to move in together. I made efforts by doing them favors, visiting them (without my husband), buying them gifts, assisting them in their business…etc. We were going to purchase our first home, had saved for a down payment plus my parents were gonna match up everything we saved. My husband works for his parents but receives only 30% of his weekly pay in check form, the rest is in cash because my in-laws don’t want to pay taxes I guess. My husband works almost 90 hours a week. When we finally found the perfect house, MIL decided to go M.I.A. only to announce by the end of the day that she wasn’t gonna give us his full paycheck that the mortgage broker was requesting. Result: obviously we didn’t get approved for the loan. I haven’t spoken to my in-laws ever since. Last week my husband had a terrible toothache and had to go to the dentist and have a wisdom tooth removed, it was a long process. He’s very responsible and never misses work. His pay came with a deduction for the day he went to surgery! I thought that not only because these are his parents but also because he busts his butt there 90 hours a week, he can’t take a paid day for medical purposes?

I have no future plans of ever holding a caring and loving relationship with my in-laws. My husband agrees with me because he has witnessed all that has been done(The story has many more unfortunate incidents, too long). What do you think?
Thank you all for your advice! We are a young couple, married for almost 4 years, and we have been making financial progress despite this huge problem. We’re learning the “tricks of the trade” slowly as my family lives in another country and his family isn’t helpful. Thanks again!