My in-laws are very smart people. They have constantly misbehaved with me right since the time I have know them (i.e. 1 year before I got married) which is almost 5 years now. However, when my husband talks to them about it they say they love me very much and never had any such intentions so at the end of the day my husband feels that his parents are great and care about me but I am not good towards them. We had to pay lakhs of rupees in loan which they borrowed in my husband’s name saying that they are tight but I have heard that they have a very lavish lifestyle. However, whenever we visit them they behave as they are short of money and virtually living on the brink.
They talk ill about me to all the relatives and I have come to know through many people what they have been saying but when I tell my husband he does not believe me saying that his parents can never do that. None of the people who told me this are ready to say so to my husband and I do not want to name them or it will spoil their relationship with my husband’s family. They are constantly smirking, and passing sarcastic remarks and I have no way of proving to my husband that they are not what he thinks but I just do not know how to do so that he understand….I am so frustrated that I thought of taking my life…the stress is killing me!!
Please help me with your suggestions.
Thank you for your answers. I tried all of these. I am not a diplomatic person by nature and though I tried, they were all the more sweet in front of my hubby. For them it is natural so they could continue, and for me it become all the more frustrating to the point I had to quit. My husband does fight with them but they always explain that they would never want to hurt me or him and probably I am taking it in the wrong way. And then, my husband is convinced easily. In his eyes, his family can never do anything bad intentionally. Mr. Marwa, It is not that I did not try thinking from that perspective too, that maybe I am being selfish. But if you are under hundred thousand rupees of debt which your parents in law borrowed and still get ill-treated by them and when you brother in law goes about telling people that he is managing the house and that his brother i.e. my husband is not doing anything for the house even though he does not contribute a single rupee himself, it ain’t that easy.