I have been married for 2 years now. My in laws are creating a huge problem between me and my husband. They are ruining my marriage. Its been 2 years and they have only created problems. They are completely financially dependant on me and my husband as my father in law is retired and my mom in law is a house wife. I am an indian female and its pretty common for a couple to stay with in laws in this country. When I married, I never thought of making my husband get separted from his parents like a good wife. I tried for 2 years. In these 2 years, I have completely financially supported the house, taken a huge personal loan to pay off my father in laws credit cards debts, even before marriage gave a huge amount to help them in one of their personal problems, running the household completely on my shoulders for the last 5 months as my husband got laid off. But my in laws always criticize me, complaint to my parents, insult them, they always tell my parents that I am good for nothing, don’t help my mother in law in the household work etc., always compare me with their good for nothing daughter who is married and stays close by and always interferes in our family life, etc. etc. I work in night shifts work for 12 hours, in the night and sleep during the day. There is no time for me to help my mom in law. But even after financially doing so much there is no appreciation. My parents are sick and tired of listening to my complaints. So far my husband used to support me in everything, but recently his parents had an argument with my parents since they were sick and tired of listening to my complaints from them. And this time, my husband is completely trusting his family and his sister who are nothing but a bunch of liers. I am devastated, don’t know where to go. I am very determined that I can’t stay with my in laws anymore. My husband refuses to move away from his parents. But his parents are ruining our marriage. I can’t take it anymore. My husband has now got a job in a different city and is moving out there. He has told me that he will choose his parents over me, will take his parents with him to that city and will make sure I am left alone here and he will make me stay with my parents.
I really don’t know where to go. I know my husband will choose his parents over me. And I just can’t take it anymore. Living with them is a living hell. Even his sisters’ husband( My in laws -son in law) hates them, as he has done the same in his family too. He has stopped visiting them for this reason.
Also, I am taking all this crap for another reason and that is that this is my second marriage. My ex husband was cheating on me which is why we decided to part ways.
In my culture divorce is really looked down upon, and if it doesn’t work this time, my parents are going to be devastated. They say they are with me but I know they are very scared, they have 4 more daughters to take care of.
I feel like ending my life so that all this pain comes to an end, atleast my parents will not have to go through another mess because of me. I really don’t know what to do..where to go. But I can’t take it anymore please help